MISTRESS ATHENA: "I LIKE MEN MOST OF THE TIME "
Mistress Athena is one of the most well known dominatrix in Brussels and her dungeon is located in the capital. She is a high class and smart dominatrix. She has also 13 years experience and speaks with passion about her games. When I met her for the first time, during a fetish evening at Galerie d’Enfer. Mistress Athena was attending the party with a well build slave wearing a dog collar and a T-shirt stating” International Trampling Association”. This slave likes to be trampled even in his man’s parts and feeling her high heels on his chest. The slave relieved his T-shirt and showed me the nice work done by Mistress Athena . His chest was well marked …. She smiled. She speaks about domination as an art of sharing.

When did You discovered that You were a dominatrix?
Young, very young. Around 18 years and watching a movie called “Histoire d’O” I said to myself I don’t want to be like O. After that I watched “Ilsa the SS Wolverine”. My parents did not know about that. At that time it was adult movies.
I am issued from a Belgian middle-class society and have been grown up in a very strict catholic family .I made a lot of horse riding and I had my own horses.
One night I was with friends in the red lights district (where girls are behind windows for prostitution) near the North Station in Brussels to drink a coffee so somebody was standing in front of me and told me “You are a dominatrix. I see it in your eyes. I would like to be whipped, that You spit in my mouth and You sit on my face “. I did it and I was excited, I enjoyed it. I had one slave then two, three…
A man who became my slave looked after me but not too long. I continued … My family never know about my fantasy.

When did you decide to have a dungeon?
Eight years ago I started with something small 25 square meters and a slave who told me “Go for it and Do it”.
My dungeon is located in the centre of Brussels.

Why did you choose Mistress Athena?
My real name is Françoise and until November 2005 I was known as Mistress Françoise. When I created my own website I had a problem … It is Mistress Françoise (France) who found Athena. It is a honour for me !
It suits me well.

It is difficult to find a give name which is not taken, isn’t it?
Yes, you are right. In Germany it is easier than in Belgium or France. A lot of German dominatrix called themselves Rita Von Somebody, Rita Von Something they have all a different name even if their given name are all Rita!
In the Latin way the given name is only used, so it is sometimes to find an original given name.

For You, what is the most important in the war name ?
The given name should refer to a woman which is important but also refers to a mythological or historical phantasm…
At first I did not know what Athena symbolized. I asked to made some researches and found out that Athena was the Goddess of War. I liked it a lot.
I like leather, I would like to be a lioness if I could.

What are you appreciating the most on a slave?
If I meet a slave during a fetish party for example, I appreciate a hand kiss and that he asked me “Mistress do you agree to give me the honour to walk over me”…

What do You like in domination ?
I like the man most of the time, I always admired them. The man at my feet, a gentleman deferent and respectful …
I don’t like vulgarity
For me a man means a lot … There should be a feeling between the slave and the Mistress. A mutual respect.

What are your preferences ?
I have a lot of preferences : the slave must be totally submitted to the Mistress. Candles. Spanking. Classic SM. Ball busting (but it is better to wear sharp shoes). Testicular trampling. I like to bore the skin of a slave with my high heels when walking over him.

Do you like feminization?
Oh yes! I have slaves who I totally feminize …
I have one slave who is leaving in Spain with his wife. He phones me everyday and tells : “Mistress You can’t imagine how much I miss You … How is the weather in Brussels ?” He asks about me … I respond briefly :” I am fine and You are with your wife “. I have my own life.

Do you prefer to remain distant with your slaves ?
I found my way with BDSM. All the games are made in total confidence between the slave and the Mistress. At the beginning I had some objections against the man. But I feel alright in my head now. I will not kill my slaves who present themselves for the time … I asked them what are they looking for and I have also to find my own pleasure too. It is most important to share the game and the pleasure. But it is also important to set your limits.

Do you have sometimes no pleasure during a season ?
Last time, I received a slave who wanted something special and he wanted it right a way without preparation: He wanted a golden shower and caviar. I told him “Golden shower ok. Scato is not that easy, you must bring it slowly, the slave was not receptive and so no feeling, I was perturbed. He wanted his own way while I tried to create pleasure… I tried to create a game for two, a phantasm to share … It didn’t work at all . He was in his trip, but I didn’t like it. I told him “I didn’t have any pleasure but I can learn you another thing …”. He never came back.

Can you say in advance if a slave is a good or a bad one ?
On the phone it is impossible to know if the session will be fine . On the phone some slaves pretend to be maso and extreme but at the first sound of the whip on their bottom they go to their mummy…
It is just when we are face to face and in the role play that I judge my slave. If he isn’t good I tell him “Look for another Mistress”, I decide if I want to see him or not ...

What kind of slaves are you looking for ?
My slaves are high educated. Very respectful, and coming most of the time from middle to high class society.
They like the Woman .. they like a nice woman who has a spirit and culture …

Yours slaves are always coming from middle to high society class then ?
Yes, my slaves are always very nice persons. No vulgarity. Nothing to see with men who are going to see prostitutes. The problem is that BDSM is know linked to them and they become “Mistresses” because they think they can earn money more easily. They think that giving 10 strokes and put a finger in an ass it is easy…
Because of them, BDSM has a bad image.

Are they a lot ?
I call them “domina grip linen” because they are not hygienic. They sodomize a man with the handle of their whip without any condom. Can you imagine the smell of the handle after? Even after being cleaned it stinks!

What is a good dominatrix ?
We are dominatrix by nature.
I know dominatrix who take revenge on men, they are wrong, BDSM is a share it is a game.
It is a flash sometimes. Everything is in the eyes, in the voice, a way of standing …
I have slaves who come without hard on! They ejaculate without erection. It is so strong, they have an orgasm in their head.
On my side, I have an orgasm when a slave is totally devoted to me. It is an osmosis. It can last one or two hours or even more…

How do you know what the man desires ?
In two minutes I can see the man’s desire. You must be intuitive. I speak of course. I ask him what he wants before the game begins. I will not put a slave in a cell if he does not ask for it! I am looking for mutual pleasure.

Can slave’s attitudes vary in function of their phantasms?
The slave of Mistress Athena said on that question : “A shy slave who has some difficulties to speak is an adept of bondage or sequestration …”
A true slave knows what he wants. Me I want to be trampled for example.
Mistress Athena takes over the interview : I receive bankers, managers with high responsibilities. I can put them on St Andre’s cross and play with their nipples. They want to play the game with me : They are insulted and batted. When the session is finished they say “Now I can go to my reunion, I feel that everything will go just fine, they are relaxed …
I have a slave who needs CBT so he can concentrate and work efficiently at his office. If his cock isn’t into his cage, he is playing with it and he is less concentrated . He has a lot of responsibilities. He has a hard one, he is always thinking about sex, therefore I put him the cage so he can concentrate at his work.

Oh? I tought the contrary?
No, he knows that as reward he will have the permission to come when I remove his cage.

What do you think about that in BDSM there is no sex?
False. My slaves are always coming at the end of a session. If not it means that I didn’t dominated them properly.
If dominatrix are not excited it is not BDSM same with slaves.

What are your working hours ?
I am working from 11am till 07pm. When I finish my day I am not in the game anymore. Sometimes I receive a phone call on Sunday but I don’t answer because I have a private life too.

Do you agree to receive slaves at the same time?
Yes if they agree. One slave is put in a cell, another one on St Andre’s Cross and the third one on the second cross. Each one receives a special treatment. Sometimes I let them do things between them.

Do you accept female slaves?
I don’t like too much female slaves because I like men too much! Most of the time female slaves are coming here upon their Master’s request or to please their husband. In that case I may accept… Sometimes it is a husband who is coming here with his wife and I show him how to dominate his wife by showing him the erotogenic zones of his wife …

Do you like medical sessions?
I can use an autoclave but I don’t practise too much that kind of session as I am not in my trip when I have to use needles or scarification…

Do you like urology?
Yes, a lot of my slaves are requesting urology sessions. I give them my urine in a cup of Champaign so they are obliged to drink it completely. I have also special toilets in my dungeon so that the slave’s head is inside the toilet and I am sitting on his face, he receives my golden shower but the only problem, he can spit out if he doesn’t want to swallow everything.

Do you like your urine?
I don’t know. I never tasted it. A lot of my slaves are always asked me for more so I suppose it is a good taste, and they are willing to please me.

What are You drinking for having a such good taste urine?
I am drinking coffee with sugar or a Diet Coke. It seems to be very good.

Did you try Champaign? I know that Champaign and sweetening drinks give honey taste urine …
I don’t drink champaign.

Who are your preferred slaves?
The slaves who are coming back, the more they come back the more I feel them and the more I learn them … Sometimes we have to take our time with a slave. As dominatrix we have to learn them their sexuality, to learn themselves and their erotogenic zones.

Is it true that a great number of slaves are requesting to be sodomized when they see a dominatrix?
Yes, the most erotogenic zone for a man is the anus… If we put a finger in it the slave is very excited. We have to include this in a session otherwise after 5 minutes it is finished they are coming and after that nothing happens. Before using a god we are playing with the anus.

Even if slaves don’t request to be sodomized are You still using a god on them?
I see if they are receptive. I play around the anus and I see if can go further. Most of them are receptive but some of them are ashamed so they don’t ask.
Most of the time I put a mask on my slaves so they change and enter into the body of somebody else.

And You are you wearing a mask ?
Never, or may be one time a wolf mask. I am a dominatrix. The slave has to wear a mask so he can see the expressions on my face. Most of my slaves are lowering the glance towards me during a session but if they look at me they must see my commanding eyes.

What are your refusing during sessions?
Yes, one day a slave told me “ I would like to take cocaine and I would like to be your slave afterwards” I said no. For me a slave must be willing to play the game and must be clear in his mind.

What are your projects?
I am going to OWK from September 13 till 16 2006. It is the first time I am going there. It is slave who told me “Mistress you must go, you must go” I had a slave who went three times and it was an incredible experience for him. At first I was not interested because at OWK you have to follow their rules (no gods). It is a domain where we can play even hard games, we beat, we whip it is for slaves.

Are You going to make a movie there?
Yes, I am going there with three slaves!

Interview: Agnès Giard